Quality Time weighs more than Quantity Time-My journey to Realization

     What would you do with extra hours in a day? More days in a week? An extra week in the year? Would you you take an extra weeks vacation, make time to join the gym, or finish that scrapbook of your child's first year of life...even though he is almost three? 

     I could sit here and daydream for hours of the sweetness that extra time would bring but then I would be wasting some of the precious few minutes I have in the morning. The moment in between the time my husband kisses me good-bye and heads for work and my son awakens from his peaceful sleep in room adjacent from ours. Cup of coffee in hand, some music, and my writing. My Zen moment.

     I learned pretty early in life that it isn't about how much time you don't have but more about how you use the time you do have. This especially came to reality after I had my son....or around when he turned 2 and a half months old. That is when I ventured back into the workforce. I left work as an employee on maternity leave and came back a scared new mom with two jobs and the one at home being the most important.

Working 9-5 with a 45 minute to an  hour commute one way has it's struggles. In the beginning I found myself sad and then angry at the fact that I only had 2 hours a day to really spend with my husband and son. And now with Ed's new job at Fedex by the time he gets home we hardly have an hour to spend together during the week before we are passed out in bed. Then I realize that I am lucky to still get to fall asleep in his arms every night.

     I pulled myself together and realized that it isn't about quantity it really is about quality. No matter how much time you spend with your children or grandchildren if you aren't making memories then you are wasting time.We have had a few family members upset with us in the past because we couldn't squeeze in extra days in the month to visit every weekend. A battle that I am sure we all find ourselves in. I wanted to yell sometimes, "Stand in line -we all want more time with this little boy." In the same sense I understood the frustration as I wished we could see them all the time as well. We did , in fact, enjoy their company very much. The fact of the matter is, however, that we are splitting up the weekends between both sets of families, our closest friends, as well as leaving a few precious days for just the three of us. They would have to learn to make the most out of the time they had. We all did. Unfortunately being in the same room as someone when your attention is focused on cooking, cleaning, work, and phone calls isn't making memories and isn't savored time. 

     From the moment I pick Eddie up from daycare to the time he is in bed under the covers I am making memories with him. In the car he tells me about his day and we sing a few songs. Sometimes he asks me to tell him stories. His favorite story right now is bout Eddie the Paleontologist that goes to the dessert to look for fossils. Last week it was about Eddie the knight who fought the ferocious dragon and saved the King and Queen.(Whom he named Mommy and Daddy.) I savor the 15 minute car ride to our home. Sometimes he just wants it to be quiet and that is OK too. I tell him.sometimes mommy likes the quiet as well.

     The next 120 minutes is pure quality time. Eat dinner at the table as a family and then we go with the flow depending on how Eddie feels. Sometimes is painting, sometimes it is play dough, or train sets, or reading, or even a movie. During the warmer months it is always a walk around the block or running around our backyard. The dinner dishes sit in the sink, the jackets lay on the couch, and lets be honest I am most like not touching that laundry pile tonight....or tomorrow. (Have you picked up on the fact I hate laundry, yet?)

     One thing I do know is that when Eddie says to me "Remember yesterday, mommy...we had a picnic in the living room? That was fun! Remember?!" I see that he wont look back and remember that his mom was only home a few hours a day but he will remember the memories we made each and every single savory second we had. 

Exhale.....Sigh...Smile

So tell me ...just for fun, "What would you do with an extra hour in a day, day in a week, week in a month, month in a year?"

With an extra hour I would make it a point to exercise a full hour straight....or maybe take a nice relaxing bath. (yea I like that one better)

With an extra day I would make sure to visit family every single week since we would still have two full days (that is, of course if the extra day was a weekend..in my world it would be)

With an extra week I would take a two week vacation somewhere beautiful like Italy or Colombia and really get to explore and see the culture (Although I'm sure two weeks still wouldn't be enough time to see it all)

With an extra month I would take a class....something just for me. Painting, Salsa dancing, A CSI class (I saw one in an advertisement before looked interesting!)

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